Serena Simmons Consultant Psychologist

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There is calm in nature…

I’m on holiday as you read this, so a brief post this week in which I would love to share with you the photographs shown here which were taken on the Chatsworth Estate a couple of weeks ago.

A couple of good friends came to stay and it was such a beautiful day that, being only an hour away, it was just too lovely outside to resist not going for a little wander around the grounds of the Chatsworth Estate for a little outdoor fun, so off we went…

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It was a super hot day and after we had had picnic on the lawn at the front of the house, we then wandered up through the woods at the back; up through the trees and towards the waterfall (seen above), which I have to say a couple of the group ended up in!

But why am I telling you about this little outing?

It’s because nature for me, is one of the places I get my strength or maybe to put another way it is where I feel a calm and connectedness that I crave if I have not ‘had it’ for a while.

I try to get out in nature as much as possible to get this ‘fix’ or feeling at being one with nature and the seasons.  It’s something I don’t get from walking around a town or city and I’m fortunate enough to live near some lovely woods which serve well as a running route for me during the week so little mid-weekly trips are possible for me to indulge in.

It’s something I talk about a lot on the pages here on my site, and that is finding your calm.

In this busy world we live in, we need places that we go to to find peace, relax and reconnect with ourselves. And it’s even better if we can build some of those things into our daily practices.

It may not be the woods or nature for you, it may be that you are one of those people that want the buzz of the city or maybe you need to go swimming or maybe you curl up under a duvet?  Maybe for you it’s your daily meditation practice or some form of exercise…the point is, that you have a place that you can ‘go to’ to find your little island of calm.

As the summer holidays are fast approaching, and as you read this I will be sunning myself on a sun-kissed Mediterranean beach, I encourage you to think about where you get your little place of calm and make a plan to go there very soon.

Til next week….where I will be announcing where you can buy tickets for MPWC2015!

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What’s your passion….really?

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Oh, I’m so passionate about reading…

I’m so passionate about interior design…

I couldn’t be more passionate about running…

I’m SO passionate about being a teacher…

I’m super passionate about my yoga business…

Oh, there’s no one more passionate than me about cooking/gardening/dancing/writing/make-up/making my own clothes!  You fill in the blank here.

We’ve all heard people tell us about what their passions are.  I’m sure even as you are reading this, you can think of things that you have said you are passionate about too.  I certainly can, but when I tell people what I’m passionate about, am I really communicating what my passion is?

Digging deep to know what your passion is…

One of the things that used to say I was passionate about, especially in my ‘early days’ straight out of university, was psychology.  As a psychology graduate wanting to be ‘fully understood’ (how deep), about what my passion was, I would tell potential employers/write in my CV/tell friends and family all about how much I loved psychology and how passionate I was about all it could offer in terms of our understanding of human behaviour, and therefore the career I was going in to.

Now I was, and indeed am still passionate about psychology, very much so, but what do I really mean when I say this? After all ‘I’m passionate’ has become a term that is banded around so much that sometimes it feels like the phrase has lost its meaning.

It’s because of this, that I feel we have to dig a little deeper to the heart of what we mean when we say ‘I am passionate’, after all I’m passionate about ice cream, but the two are clearly not the same thing.

When I think about what is beyond the phrase for me, in light of psychology, I can see that I am drawn to any opportunity  to help someone ‘make a change’ or more specifically the chance to aide someone in ‘breaking their routine’.

I notice this as a running theme in both my teaching at University, my private practice with clients, the packages I write, the book I am working on and the courses I am compiling.  Although Psychology is the label or umbrella term if you will, that I work under, I am driven by this greater force and it is THIS, I am truly passionate about.

Keep your passions, whatever guise they come in!

So, what I’m not suggesting any one does is stop using the phrase ‘I am passionate’.  How wonderful it is to be able to say that about something…what a rich and full life you will live when it is full of passion and action that is from your heart.  What I’m saying is, that there is great power in taking time to think about where this descriptive statement comes from for you?

What does it mean when you say you are passionate about cooking for example?  Is it that what you are really drawn to, is putting time and love into something that brings people together around a table, and this is your passion?  When you say you are passionate about exercise, do you really mean that you have a fundamental belief in having a strong healthy body that will carry you through to old age, and this is your passion?

When we realise more deeply where our passions come from, it’s interesting how you may start to notice a pattern in other things that you do in your life because it has the same underlying theme or element that we are drawn to (your deeper meaning for passion)….this can help  things to make sense, and can also help you plan future steps in your life and business as you have a clearer view of the driving force behind your decision making and also enjoyment.

It was like this for me when I started teaching, I couldn’t understand why it felt so addictive, and then I realised that it was the ability to help ‘change’ someone via learning, as it had been when working with patients who were ‘changed’ by therapy, that was the theme for me!

What themes do you notice?

Sometimes, it can be easy to figure out the underlying reason for your passion and sometimes it can take some time to get to the bottom of when the ‘real’ reason is for you.  The fun is in the exploration and as we delve deeper we learn more about ourselves and others.

Now there is something to be passionate about.

Til next week!

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I want IT…whatever IT IS?…….

What is it that you want?

Is it a different career?  Is it a better relationship?  Is it nicer clothes or maybe you want more money and lots of it!

Maybe what you want is much simpler than that?

Do you want space, peace, clarity? To be able to finish a cup of tea or have a pee in peace before someone is banging on the door asking for something?

Maybe you want more time to do the things you enjoy, like gardening, painting, yoga, walking, pottery…maybe you want a holiday?

Maybe you don’t know what you want and there in lies the problem.

Do you want a GOOD LIFE?

Have you ever seen the programme The Good Life?

I happen to love it just a little bit. I watched it as a child and thoroughly enjoyed the fun that Barbara and Tom used to have in the garden with a menagerie of animals not to mention their hilarious relationship with Margot and Jerry.  My love for the programme was only enhanced when I lived in new Zealand as an adult as the true ‘Englishness’ of it all made me feel a little closer to home.

But this isn’t just about my love of this quirky British sitcom and the characters in it (or anything to do with the fact that I own the box-set!).  This is about the premise behind why the characters chose to live the ‘good life’ in the first place and how the reason itself is so closely related to real life, in fact our own lives and how we live on a daily basis.

What are your goals and where do you want to be?

Let me explain, the first episode begins with Tom Good celebrating his 40th birthday.

Tom heads to work that morning and notices his feeling of boredom and apathy about what he is doing.  No one in the office recognises him for his work, he doesn’t feel acknowledged he doesn’t feel inspired by his work and he feels that what he doing is actually a joke.

He also notices that no one recognises his passion for fun or really, even knows his name! You also witness him realising that he wasn’t invited to play cricket with the office as he is considered, wait for it…..too old!

Tom seems to realise quite quickly that he is downright miserable, and so that evening after his birthday dinner with Barbara he starts a conversation about this very issue and how he is missing ‘IT’ in his life.  If he could find ‘IT’, he says he might be able to solve the problem.  After all he says that he doesn’t want to ‘feel the same way when he is 41’.

He decides, after an entire night up writing lists and drawing up plans that IT for him is…

“…breaking the circle.  Going to work, to get money to translate into things, which you use up, which makes you go to work again!”.

And that is how their Good Life begins…

What is it for you?

Not everyone can just sit down with a piece of paper, stay up all night and solve their life problems, therefore figuring out what ‘IT’ is.  But what this programme is a great illustration of (even though it is only made up!), is that if you dig deep and ask yourself some big questions, starting with noticing what you want/desire, then we owe it to our future self to get started on the path that we feel will take us there.

Maybe if you don’t know what ‘IT” is for you, you can try some things to help you rediscover what that might be?

What is it you need to do?

Do you need to take some time out of your daily grind so you actually have a moment to reflect?

Is it to take up an old hobby or activity that will allow you to ‘reconnect with yourself?

Do you need to protect time in your day every day just to sit and write down in a journal about the things you have enjoyed or appreciated that day?

Maybe you want to seek some external help to help you figure out your IT?


There can be great power in figuring out what “IT’ is for you.

I encourage you to take some tome to reflect this week on what ‘IT’ is for you.  If you already know, then brilliant!  Are you therefore living your own Good Life? if so I’d love to hear about it and maybe you have some tips to share about the things that work for you in allowing you to stay focussed on your path.

For now I’ll just leave you with one last piece of advice from Tom Good…

“What we should be doing is working at the job of life itself”

Fancy that.

Till next week!

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Tell the truth and everyone’s a winner…

I’ve just had a wonderful half term holiday day trip with my nieces.

They are at the lovely ages of 10 and 8, which means that you don’t have to worry about taking bags of ‘supplies’ for them when you go out for the day.  They also like to do cool things and really explore, and that means we can generally do so much more together now that they are older.  We also have very, very funny conversations.

They make me laugh….a lot!


What was so obvious when I took them out for the day to London, was just how different they are as people.

They have always been different since they were very little.

Jasmine, the older sibling is outgoing, gregarious, loves pink, loves make-up and also (much after my own heart), loves dare-devil activities and adventure.  The day before I saw her, she has spent the day roller-coaster-hopping at Alton Towers!  She talks about travel, singing and will try anything new whether that be food or experiences.

Her sister LiLi is so very different.

Quiet, a little shy and so caring and sensitive, she is happiest colouring in quietly or watching a film.  She likes her head rubbed and hates to wear anything really feminine, preferring her jeans, a hoody and converse trainers.  She is also a creature of habit, a little bit of geek, has the cheekiest laugh you have EVER heard and also in her words is ‘scared of everything Aunty Serena!’.


What I loved about LiLi telling me this, was her absolute honesty about how she feels about the things that make her scared.  Don’t get me wrong, hearing that she is scared of everything doesn’t exactly fill my heart with joy.

I’ve known for a long time that she has struggled to do some things because of being wary or a little frightened, and so myself and the rest of the family lovingly and supportively have encouraged her to ‘get involved’ and try new things.  She’s getting better and I think with the same continuous encouragement and the experience of trying new things and ultimately enjoying herself, she is learning slowly to tackle these things head on.

The lesson here though is such an important one, you see I know people, adults, who cannot and do not own up to their feelings of being scared the way this little person can.

What this sometimes results in, is a ‘bending of the truth’ situation where people try and concoct all sorts of stories to get out of doing something.

I’m sure you are familiar with the situation, the friend who can’t come on that run with you because of an ‘ankle injury’, or the mate who can’t try the shellfish because they are ‘allergic’ or the friend who can’t come to your karaoke night because  they they have to help their partner with writing up their new CV?

[…or I have to add, given that I am also an academic, the student who can’t submit their work because of the death of a Grandparent…I’m not being mean! This is a researched and documented phenomenon, in fact an amusing article on the subject can be found HERE with links to scholarly articles). 



In our desire to not look silly.  To not feel weak.  To not feel vulnerable.  To not feel inferior.  To not feel pain or shame or discomfort, we AVOID telling the truth.

We are FEARFUL. We are SCARED.

But here’s the thing.  The first step is in acknowledging what we are scared of, just like  LiLi and in doing so you might actually realise that there are things that you would like to have a go at, but you had already made a decision that you were scared or wouldn’t like it!

To actually say I am scared, out loud to those around you, is the first step towards change.

After all, people close to you can usually see what’s really happening. If you have friends who you are constantly ‘putting off’ doing things with, they may eventually get tired of your strange responses and may even stop asking you to join in or do things altogether?

If you have the ability and the can harness the desire to first acknowledge and tell the truth about what you are afraid of, people who care about you will certainly appreciate your honesty.  They may even have more understanding of your situation and feel sympathy or indeed empathy for what you are experiencing.

In doing this it will also allow you to look at why you don’t want to try something and maybe you can then make some headway towards changing it…if you want to that is, as clearly there are some things that you may never want to do, Karaoke being a good example!

I really encourage you to take a look at things that you feel make you scared?  Why is it that you don’t want to do them? What are you really afraid of?

When is the last time you tried it…maybe its been a long time and you could actually have another go at that thing?

Maybe change happens outside of our comfort zone!

Could you consider opening up to someone about what you are ‘scared’ of? If you did what might this change?  It may not having you bungee jumping next weekend, but it may help you feel freed up of your desire to show yourself in a particular light which can help you towards a more balanced, honest and truthful self.

Till next week!

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Stop your brain being your worst enemy!…

Hello everyone!

How was your week and if you were in the UK, how was your Bank Holiday weekend?

If you glance over at my Twitter feed, you will see that I spent my Bank Holiday on a fabulous camping trip with friends in the Peak District this year…happy times!

So, to todays post which is a short and sweet one today, as I present to you an article that you can find in this months’ Cosmopolitan Magazine (UK), which is a feature all about my advice for getting into action and getting done the projects you are currently working on or would like to work on!


I’d like to thank Cosmo, for taking the time to interview me for this piece.  It was great to be able to contribute to the mag and I’ve had a great response from readers and also from the staff about the advice given, so thank you Cosmo.

More exciting news to follow about my courses that are coming up over the summer as well as MPWC2015 which, has had to be slightly delayed due to getting the amazing logistics ready for such a glorified, relaxing day. Apologies to those that have registered interest.  You will be the first to know the date and details and will be the first to be given the Early Bird Discount.

You will be updated as soon as I can tell you more….in the meantime to continue to express your interest to attend and if you too would like to receive notification of the Early Bird Discount, then please email me at putting MPWC2015 in the subject line.

Till next week!

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Are you ready for a BIG leap outside of your comfort zone?…

I’m SO excited to share today’s post with you!

I’ve been wanting to share this news with you for some time now, but have been waiting until a few more things were in place before I set-to, so here goes…

I would love to present to you a new Programme that I am launching this year called Ape-athy!

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I’ve been working on this programme behind the scenes for over a year now.  It is a programme that means an awful lot to me especially as I really consider this a culmination of my life’s work to date.

For me this is the programme that I have looked to do myself that doesn’t exist.

This, and noticing that there was a stark gap in the market for a programme that would help me achieve the change/have the experience I was looking for, is what inspired me to create it.  So here it is in all its glory, but let me first explain what it will do for you…

Ape-athy ist is a completely immersive, experiential programme that is designed to help you achieve a radical change and shift in thinking as well as a new lease for life!

Ape-athy is the programme for you, if you are the kind of person who ever wonders why they are here?  What are you supposed to do with your life, how can you be your best self and peak-perform on a consistent basis.

It’s for people who want to achieve, have success, feel like they are moving forward and also at the same time find an inner peace and calm.  It’s also for people who want to have fun, feel exhilarated, feel connected and learn something new about themselves.

Ape-athy is delivered in way that allows you not just to hear good information, like many of the other types of personal development type programmes that exist…in Ape-athy you will be taken through a series of talks, exercises, group activities, individual activities and other more unusual tasks that will have you experience and kineasthetically acquire the insight via your own experience.

To complete the programme, you have to be over the age of 18.  You will also fill out several batches of psychometrics before completion of the programme so that we know as much about you as we can before you enter.

On day one of this 2 day programme, you begin by handing over your mobile devices, sign your disclaimer stating that you will not discuss the programme on completion and then for the next 2 days you will be taken on a journey that takes you right from the evolution of man, through to your future self.  More than that, when you leave you will know exactly what you need to do in order to get to where you want to be.

During this course of the programme you will be ‘helped’ out of your comfort zone, you will get to know others, you will clearly know what you want from life, you will know what you need to do next, you will know what you need to do to keep evolving so to avoid the stagnation or ‘apathy’ that can oh so easily creep into your life.

Please do take a look at the latest advert for the programme below which gives you a feel for the programme…

Ape-athy is not for the fainthearted, as there will be activities that participants will have to complete that can only be likened to being on a roller-coaster…in more ways than one!

What you can be guaranteed of however, is that you will be taken care of, you will be safe and you WILL leave after 2 days with a new boundless energy, knowledge of who you are, an understanding of what your gift really is and thus how you can apply the knowledge you have gained lead a successful and happy life.

Pheeew!  So there it is.

On this project I am collaborating with leaders from across the globe in many areas, from my own passion of Psychology, to Physiologists, Biologists, Sports and Exercise Scientists, Philosophers, Artists, Economists and I’m getting a little help from Magicians.  As I said, you will taken on an experiential journey so the ride will be informative, challenging, a little scary but also fun.

If you would like to know more please go to the Ape-athy website at

Here you have the opportunity to ‘sign up’, which means that you will be the first to find out about new information, dates for the programme and also other news from the Ape-athy World including Early Bird Discounts.  More information will also be coming to the pages soon, and this will also include details regarding the Ape-athy charity which is part of the business.  In this capacity money from the programmes will go to chosen projects that support the conservation of our planet, including several key animal charities…more about this soon!

I’ll also be talking about this on NOTTS TV next Monday 18th on the 6.30 Show and will be particularly talking about the ‘Pitch to Rich’ that I have made for business mentoring and funding from Richard Branson which you can see here:

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I felt that this was an amazing opportunity to get the word out about the Programme, learn more, meet new people as well as having access to some of the best business minds in the country.  I would also be so honoured if you would consider voting for me between 9am Monday 18th and Wednesday 20th at 5pm.  All it takes is the click of a button and then verification of your email.  By getting more votes I have a chance to go through to the next round which would be immensely exciting.

Thank you again. I’m so pleased to be offering this course to you and others who are just as passionate about change and our own evolution.

I also look forward to sharing more news on these pages about the programme in the coming months, as well as more about the other events that are taking place for Multi-passionates and my usual goings on.

In the meantime, thank you for reading all about this new exciting project.

Till next week!


I am looking for people for the first ‘test’ audience for Ape-athy later this year.

if you would like to know more about this, then please be in contact with me by sending an email to writing ‘Ape-athy TEST’ in the subject line.

I look forward to hearing from you brave souls!

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Avoid the brain pickers!


…’do you think I just could pick your brain about….’, and THAT is just about where I, now, switch off!

Sound familiar? The world is full of them…’brain pickers’ (BPs).  They look like normal people, they seemingly behave like normal people but really, BPs are angels of death.  Ok that’s a little exaggerated, but really, they are devils in disguise and they will be the death of your business and/or will impact greatly on your emotional and spiritual well-being.

The fact is, is that we live in a world that is full of opportunists.  People who want to short-cut or bypass the system.  There are people out there who just don’t want to have to take the time to learn or gain the experience needed to understand something. They want it and they want it now!  So what do they do?

They find people like you and me, people who have done the hard work, the miles, the late nights after hours of trying to get your head around something, the years earning the qualifications, you’ve shed the tears, you’ve sweated the blood, then they try and PICK IT FROM YOUR BRAIN!

BPs are usually very clever at sugar-coating their picking. They sneak it by you without you even noticing what they are doing.  For example, they will say things like “Oh, you are SO good at ‘X’, maybe I could pick your…”, or, “I could never be as good as you, maybe I could pick your….”.  But one of the best ones to use, is sympathy.  BPs who use this tactic will appear to be in distress or in need of your help, and you’d certainly be a bad person to not help them wouldn’t you?

Well no you wouldn’t!  you’d do well to protect yourself from BPs and here’s why.  BPs leave you feeling used.  People who have had their brain picked feel taken for granted, shafted, tired, angry, frustrated, dumbfounded and well, downright cheap!  And you’d be right to feel cheap, after all they have probably just taken what may have taken you years to learn, as well as thousands in fees for your qualifications, and they just got it for free!

So what can you do?  This is something that I’ve struggled with for a long time, though I’ve come to learn that letting people pick my brain, is not worth the heartache it causes.  I’ve been left feeling used and abused more times than I can remember.  In the long run it doesn’t end up good for either party as depending on your relationship, for example if it’s is a friend doing the picking (yes they can do it too!), colleague or business partner, then it will impact your relationship with them and ultimately your relationship will falter.

The funny thing here is that no-one can pick your brain without your permission!  Based on this, it’s up to YOU to make the change and put in boundaries that are going to lead to an ultimately better, all-round relationship where no-one feels taken for granted.

So, there are some simple rules to live by that I’ve found helpful in this quest to avoid losing a hemisphere, or two, that you may also find useful…here we go!

  1. Know who the free-loaders are vs those you are happy to help – There will be people that you do actually want to help for ‘free’.  They might be family or particular friends, maybe you do some pro-bono or charity work.  Give to those that you want to, and simply say no to those that you don’t.  You have a right.  It’s your brain!
  2. Say thank you –   Thank them for recognising your strengths.  Say that you would love to help them and that you charge £XX for your services.  Would they like to book an appointment?
  3. Direct them to your website – Assuming the BP in front of you is NOT one of those that you want to be helping for nowt, then simply direct them to your website or give them your business card.  Its OK to say that you don’t have the time for someone to ‘pick your brain’, but that they can probably find all they need on your site.  If they’d like to follow up, you’d be happy to and that your consultation rates are also on your site.  How convenient.
  4. Call em out! – Ok, this one takes guts.  It will depend very much on your relationship with that person, but there is nothing wrong with appropriately asking them what YOU get from the interaction?  I direct ‘OK great, what do I get from this?’ might be completely valid.  In fact even it may lead to a neat way of bartering skills?  Maybe they also have something that they can/would like to give in return for your help, then everyone’s a winner.
  5. The la la la method – Pretend to not be able to hear them, stick your fingers in your ears and shout ‘la la la’ at the top of your voice.  Ok, this one is a joke, but remember, if someone is making you feel uncomfortable.  If you feel like you are being taken for granted or that you are giving away too much information, information, advice or services that people usually pay for, then you are within your rights to cease the interaction and walk away.  Remember, no rational, ‘good’, law-abiding citizen would walk into a shop and steal goods. Just as it’s NOT ok to do this, it’s NOT OK to ‘steal’ from people’s minds without paying.  So, if you catch the thief, even half way through the robbery, make them stop!

I hope you found these tips useful.  If you did I’d love to hear from you.  Have you had anyone pick your brain before?  How did it feel?  Did you make them stop or are you still stuck in the same pattern of allowing it to happen?

Please share your thoughts in the comments.  There will be more tips and advice given in my new Newsletter which starts in January, along with a new ‘Money’ segment for all you Multi-passionates out there! Please sign up to receive this.

Till next time!

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Feeling the stress?

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Stress is something that we all feel from time to time.  It’s natural to feel stressed if there have been things that have occurred in your life that have meant that you have found it difficult to manage.  Maybe you have very specific things in your life that are causing you stress?  Maybe you already know what these things or ‘triggers’ are?  Is it work?  Your relationship, or lack of relationship?  Is it money worries?  The list is quite obviously, endless.

I’ve felt inspired to write about STRESS this week, as I’ve been feeling that something has been in the air if you will.  I’ve spoken to several friends and clients lately who have all told me that they have been feeling particularly stressed or ‘stressed out’ at the moment.

As someone who is multi-passionate, I can relate to this as I often feel stressed when I feel like I’ve been juggling too much, or when I just don’t feel on top of things.  Feeling stressed is a sign for me that my mind, and body, need to take a break.  It also means that I need to take a look at what’s going on and see if there are some changes I could be making to alleviate that awful feeling that usually sits in my stomach and makes me want to sleep.  Aaaaghhhhhh, avoidance!

So, what can be done to combat this feeling of stress?

The first thing I always like to do is to, you’ve guessed it, is to write a list!  I’m big on list making.  It allows you to get clarity on the things that are floating around in your head.  It doesn’t have to be an actual list of course, but just a piece of paper where you can write down all the things you currently associate with your stressed feeling at that particular time.  Don’t throw these away either.  Keep them for at least a few months…I’ll tell you why in a mo.

What you should take particular notice of here is the difference between the things you CAN change versus the things you CAN’T change.  For example, worrying about the fact that you have a report due in for work might be a ‘real’ reason to be stressed.  Worrying that you ‘might’ get sick for example, is something that you don’t have any control over, so worrying about these kinds of things is really just wasting your time and energy and will sap you dry I tell you!

The next thing to do is to TAKE ACTION.  This is honestly and truly the best thing that you can do to combat that feeling of stress.  Look at your ‘brain dump’, at all the things that you see you have control over.  List them in order of priority and start to tackle them.  One by one, check them off of your list, and you will find that you will start to feel a little lighter.

You have to be really strict with how your prioritise getting these things done.  Obviously important things come first and you would work backwards from there.  This goes back to another post I’ve written about scheduling and organising your time.  You see if you know that when you schedule something in your diary, that you actually stick to it, not once but over and over again (in other words you are reliable…to yourself!), then you condition yourself to relax.  Ultimately, you learn that you are trustworthy and eventually it WILL get done!

One final thing you can also do, is to break your routine.  By that I mean, take a good look at what isn’t working for you.  Look at that list that you’ve made (this is where you look at any lists you’ve made over time).  What keeps on coming up? Is there something that is causing you stress over and over again, regardless of what you feel are actively doing to handle it.

If you see some serial offenders, for example you feel stressed because you can’t lose weight? Then maybe you need to break your routine.  Clearly the things you have been doing to try help with this issue haven’t been working for you, so what is it that you can do that is totally different from anything you’ve done before?  Is it that you join a new gym class?  Can you ask a friend to train with you, one that you know works out hard.  Can you see a dietician to get help with your diet?

So, these were just a few ideas that might help you to combat stress.  There are clearly many different things that you can do. Remember to take a break when you need it.  Sometimes feeling stressed is just a sign that your body and mind needs time to ‘re-boot’ as it were.  Also always remember that generally taking care of yourself is key.  Basic things like, diet and exercise make a big difference to stress levels.  I also like to meditate, which may be you’d like to try as well?  There are also other things you might want to do that you know help you relax. Another thing I know helps me relax us to paint or draw.
There is also the old reliable ‘sharing with a friend’.  I have several great friends who, when I’ve spoken to them about things that have caused me to feel stressed, I just feel better.

One final tip, and this is a quote from Marcus Aurelius, reminds us that…

“You have power over your mind, not outside events. Realise this, and you will find strength”

Have a great, stress-free week!