What is it that you want?
Is it a different career? Is it a better relationship? Is it nicer clothes or maybe you want more money and lots of it!
Maybe what you want is much simpler than that?
Do you want space, peace, clarity? To be able to finish a cup of tea or have a pee in peace before someone is banging on the door asking for something?
Maybe you want more time to do the things you enjoy, like gardening, painting, yoga, walking, pottery…maybe you want a holiday?
Maybe you don’t know what you want and there in lies the problem.
Do you want a GOOD LIFE?
Have you ever seen the programme The Good Life?
I happen to love it just a little bit. I watched it as a child and thoroughly enjoyed the fun that Barbara and Tom used to have in the garden with a menagerie of animals not to mention their hilarious relationship with Margot and Jerry. My love for the programme was only enhanced when I lived in new Zealand as an adult as the true ‘Englishness’ of it all made me feel a little closer to home.
But this isn’t just about my love of this quirky British sitcom and the characters in it (or anything to do with the fact that I own the box-set!). This is about the premise behind why the characters chose to live the ‘good life’ in the first place and how the reason itself is so closely related to real life, in fact our own lives and how we live on a daily basis.
What are your goals and where do you want to be?
Let me explain, the first episode begins with Tom Good celebrating his 40th birthday.
Tom heads to work that morning and notices his feeling of boredom and apathy about what he is doing. No one in the office recognises him for his work, he doesn’t feel acknowledged he doesn’t feel inspired by his work and he feels that what he doing is actually a joke.
He also notices that no one recognises his passion for fun or really, even knows his name! You also witness him realising that he wasn’t invited to play cricket with the office as he is considered, wait for it…..too old!
Tom seems to realise quite quickly that he is downright miserable, and so that evening after his birthday dinner with Barbara he starts a conversation about this very issue and how he is missing ‘IT’ in his life. If he could find ‘IT’, he says he might be able to solve the problem. After all he says that he doesn’t want to ‘feel the same way when he is 41’.
He decides, after an entire night up writing lists and drawing up plans that IT for him is…
“…breaking the circle. Going to work, to get money to translate into things, which you use up, which makes you go to work again!”.
And that is how their Good Life begins…
What is it for you?
Not everyone can just sit down with a piece of paper, stay up all night and solve their life problems, therefore figuring out what ‘IT’ is. But what this programme is a great illustration of (even though it is only made up!), is that if you dig deep and ask yourself some big questions, starting with noticing what you want/desire, then we owe it to our future self to get started on the path that we feel will take us there.
Maybe if you don’t know what ‘IT” is for you, you can try some things to help you rediscover what that might be?
What is it you need to do?
Do you need to take some time out of your daily grind so you actually have a moment to reflect?
Is it to take up an old hobby or activity that will allow you to ‘reconnect with yourself?
Do you need to protect time in your day every day just to sit and write down in a journal about the things you have enjoyed or appreciated that day?
Maybe you want to seek some external help to help you figure out your IT?
There can be great power in figuring out what “IT’ is for you.
I encourage you to take some tome to reflect this week on what ‘IT’ is for you. If you already know, then brilliant! Are you therefore living your own Good Life? if so I’d love to hear about it and maybe you have some tips to share about the things that work for you in allowing you to stay focussed on your path.
For now I’ll just leave you with one last piece of advice from Tom Good…
“What we should be doing is working at the job of life itself”
Till next week!