Serena Simmons Consultant Psychologist

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Week 5: Play!

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Welcome to the last week in the change your career in 2015 series!

I hope you’ve had a great week and I hope that if you’ve been doing the exercises over the last 5 weeks, that you have started to open up your mind to other possibilities.  Maybe you’ve even started to make changes to your current situation/job/future….if so, great!

So, the last and final step is to PLAY!!!

Adult ball pool

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/ball-pit-for-adults-opens-in-london-10010207.html

(A fab, but temporary ball pit for adults in London…go play!)

#5

PLAY!

It’s certainly not new for me to mention playing on the pages of my blog (I’m a big fan of people of all ages engaging in play-see my previous blogs on this topic) and I’m going to say it again right now.  Firstly however, I want to address where and why play fits in here…

Up until now, all of the steps we have taken have required you to to sit, write, ponder, think, contemplate and discuss (in your own head/with someone) the ideas that you have had, or the thoughts that have come up for you since the process of career shift began.

This has been important as it’s good to get clear on the things we are really unhappy/happy with, what we are willing to/not willing to compromise on.  It also has been a process of ‘getting real’ about what our goals are and how we think we will reach them if our current situation remains the same.

You’ve also ‘had the conversation’, so now its time for exploration, breaking free and ultimately breaking our routines.

The fact is, that many people don’t change a situation because they don’t feel they know how to, or they feel trapped by their current situation.

The absolute best thing you can do here is to break free from what you are currently doing and do something different.  This doesn’t mean leaving your job tomorrow and it certainly doesn’t mean Googling different jobs every night in the hope that a new situation will present itself.  In fact this can be a sure fire way to long term unhappiness, as often people who think all of the answers they need can be found by doing internet searches, just end up doing that….internet searches for the rest of their days. You can also be swept into taking other positions that, again, you’ve guessed it….make you unhappy!

I’ve seen many people do this.  They are brave enough to leave their job, then they quickly get sucked straight back into another!

In my coaching practice I find that this is usually for one of 3 reasons; 1) They need to find work because they can’t survive (they need money to be able to pay their mortgage/bills/general living etc.), or 2) They don’t really know what else to do/don’t know what they can do/are good at so take a job that they ‘can do’ 3) They panic!

This is one of the main reasons why playing is so important.  By all means search on-line, in fact I do encourage you to do this a little bit.  See what opportunities are available.  Also, check out other people who are doing things you are attracted to (it’s good to seek role models).  The difference is to get out of your comfort zone and start actively trying some of these things. In other words, play. Be active and thus in action.

Playing not only enhances our creativity, relaxes and entertains us, but what you are doing when you are playing is a great way to explore the things that you are genuinely interested in that might in turn actually be valuable sources of income or even a future career?

When you play, what are you drawn to?  Is it the arts, do you like to draw or paint maybe?  Maybe you like gaming or design?  Maybe you like all things health or you might love nature?  Playing and what you do to play is a great way to start to notice the things that you are drawn to.

The good thing about playing is also that it allows us to try things out with no major consequences.  Sometimes for example we think we will like a job, but the reality is very different.  If you can play/volunteer/do a course (I only suggest this if it’s is not costly in time or money), then you can really, actively explore your possibilities and know from an experiential level, so much more than you would have known if you had only read about it on a screen.

Once you start to build an idea of the things that you enjoy doing and find that these align with your goals, it’s much easier to see what things you might be willing to compromise on (for example can you have less of a salary for a short while).  It also means that you might be closer to achieving your long terms goals, as you are happier, more settled and more driven.  Ultimately a much more enjoyable experience and much more meaningful life!

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So, I hope you have found these 5 steps to finding your new career in 2015 useful?

These steps are a great way to get real about your journey and to start taking some all important action.  The steps here are not exhaustive, they also rely on you carrying on with the process and searching for new opportunities that you find exciting.  It’s an ongoing journey that needs tweaking and revisiting all the time, but this is art of the process called life.  No surprises there.

If you would like any more information about this, or would like to seek some individual Psychology Coaching to help you through your own career shift then do be in touch via the form below.

Next week, some amazing stories of inspiration to start this Fine February…till then!

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